Goodness me, I’ve played hooky for an entire week. I’ve not been away from the laptop entirely. I’ve been writing thinky posts about Yerkes-Dodson and talking about things that don’t have anything to do with France or bulldogs.
I’ve been in one of those mild funks stemming from the endless winter. It’s hard being in a new town even if one had been brought there under normal circumstances. Sometimes I feel like I’m on another planet. So there’s been lots of yoga and even a jet peel which is this fabulous thing where they pressure wash your face like they might an ancient stone building. It helps and I’m lucky I can bankroll these salves. To the person who felt compelled to write me to say that I was too privileged, I say, walk in my shoes for the past five years and then let me know how privileged you feel. We are all privileged and we are all broken – both beyond measure. If fancy candles and bags soothe a savage breast, then isn’t life simple?
I finished Forever Chic, which is my favourite book about French living so far. It’s written by A Femme d’Un Certain Age‘s Tish Jett who is an American style editor who is married to a French man and resides in Paris. I know, I’m envious as sin too. Her book is both a practical style guide and has a layer of wisdom that your don’t find in books written by twenty-year olds.
Jett made me lust after the availability of good conversation in France, where philosophy is a mandatory high school course. I was part of a sort of salon in the city but have yet to find one here. I was bemoaning this fact when I was presented with two opportunities: one to help kickstart a business-oriented group with a girlfriend and another to connect with this group of fierce, cool women via the impressive Che Marville, a women with whom people have been trying to connect me for the past decade. We had a lunch to celebrate International Women’s Day and it’s one of the first events I’ve been at where we discussed neither our children’s extra-curriculars nor renovations. I feel like I have oxygen in my blood once again.
Sometimes the universe provides you exactly what you need, much as I often fight the notion. Sonya Huber recently wrote How the ‘Trophy for Just Showing Up’ Is Earned for the NYT blog. I felt it applies hugely to our funny little family, particularly this passage:
In “How Children Succeed,” Paul Tough describes “grit” as a key indicator of success. I wanted grit for my son, and he has it. Sometimes he got anxious that he wasn’t the best, and I told him he would rarely be the best in anything in life, and that was fine.
God, what a relief is was to read her words. We may not have rep hockey or straight As or my former bank account, but we have true grit in spades. Rooster Cogburn in well-worn cashmere. And so, as they say, the kids are alright. We don’t have everything, but we have enough. And as Molly Peacock writes so gorgeously, want is not so bad.